You will likely be exiled from the group. Accept it. Do not fight for mutual friends. Let them choose him. Start a new social circle with your new girlfriend.
Here is the truth you didn’t want to hear: my friends girlfriend becomes my girlfriend
The question isn’t whether it can happen. The question is: You will likely be exiled from the group
In 96% of cases, you will lose the friend, the friend group will fracture, and the new relationship will crumble under the weight of the betrayal. You will be left alone, having sacrificed a brother for a moment of passion. Let them choose him
Psychologists call this . When your relationship is built on the destruction of another relationship, the ghost of your friend will haunt your bedroom. Every argument you have, she will wonder if you are loyal. Every time you go out with the guys, he will wonder if you are looking at his new girlfriend.
This is nuclear honesty. It will sting him. He may be angry. But he will also respect you more than any other human on earth. You have just proven your loyalty under fire. If their relationship collapses naturally, without your interference, wait six months. A full six months. Then, ask your friend: “Would it bother you if I asked [Ex] out?” If he says yes, you respect it. If he says no, proceed cautiously. Only then can you safely say that your friend’s ex-girlfriend becomes your girlfriend—without becoming a villain. Part 6: The Aftermath – If You Already Crossed the Line Too late. You already did it. She’s yours. He’s devastated. The group chat is silent except for the occasional flaming emoji.